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If you’ve followed my blog for some time, you’ve probably realized that I am a huge music fan. I love everything for classical music to soft rock. There are only a few genres of music to which my palate has not developed. Many of my thought are often accompanied by the soundtrack of songs in my head. Even the title of today’s blog made me think of the 1987 hit, Jealous Fellas, by Dimples Tee.

Earlier this morning, I came across an Instagram post stating that Christian rapper, Lecrae, was recently on Jimmy Fallon and that he was discussing the success of his new album, “Anomaly.” I was excited. Not only do I love Lecrae’s music, I am always proud to see Christians using their talent and their platform to advance the Kingdom of God. I hadn’t yet heard the album, so I decided to listen to the single, “Nuthin,” online. In a nutshell, the song highlighted what Lecrae believes to be a prevalent trend in the hip-hop culture—the inclination to romanticizes and glamorizes materialism and frivolity. I thought it was rather profound. As I was about to scroll to the next song, I caught a glimpse of one of the comments. It accused him of using illuminati and satanic symbols in the video. It’s also accused him of being a false Christians.

STOP IT!

John 8: 7 says, “…let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” I have no idea whether or not such symbols were implemented.  I don’t even know enough about illuminati, or the likes thereof, to render an opinion on the topic.  Moreover, that topic is beyond the scope of this discussion.

For some people, what I am about to say might come as a revelation. Here goes! We are ALL sinners!!!! Yes, every single one of us. It is not up to any of us to judge the depth of another person’s relationship with God. Remember Job. Both his family and his friends thought that his adversity was a result of his sins against God. They could not have been further from the truth. In fact, God favored Job, and after he stood the test of adversity, God rewarded him twofold. Here is my point. None of us knows what conversation(s) other people have with God. Maybe God has instructed someone to do something in a manner that is unconventional. To the naked eye it might seem preposterous. However, it might be their directive from the Lord. And even it if wasn’t, some things are just none of our business. Just as God allowed us to come into relationship with Him on our own terms. Sometimes, we have to allow others to come into relationship with God on their terms.  That is not to say that we cannot gently, and with love, correct our brothers and sisters.  When relating to each other, we have to constantly ensure that the pools of our memory are not shallow. It’s easy to forget where God has delivered us from, but, we have to. That’s what keeps us humble.

I have to say this. When you and I berate other people’s blessing and the use thereof, it comes across as jealousy. All too often, I have observed that the very same people who are critical of others have no problems enjoying the same blessings when it is bestowed upon them. As Christians, we must remember that the rain falls on the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45), and every good and perfect thing is from God (James 1:17). The same God that blesses you is the same God that blesses the next person (unrighteous or righteous). My pastor once said this: “For most people, excess is usual one score above what they can afford.” If I can afford a Mercedes, then excess is having a Ferrari. That cannot be so. God blesses each of us in accordance to what He knows that we can handle. Unfortunately, not everyone is equipped to handle fame and fortune.  “If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. But if you are dishonest in little things, you won’t be honest with greater responsibilities,” (Luke 16:10).

One of the hardest things for us to do is to look in the mirror and “truly” assess the person staring back at us. Yet, in order for us to grow, it is something that we must do daily. If we are constantly finding fault with other people, we must ask ourselves: “What is wrong with me?”

“Most people hate in others what it is that they hate about themselves,” (Unknown). Know that if you are constantly finding fault with others, there is something wrong with your thinking. It is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. In order for you to love others, you have to first love yourself—truly love yourself—in private. You are God’s masterpiece, created anew in Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:10). God loves you very much, but He also loves your brothers and sisters as well. Just as you want God to be tender and patient with you. Allow the same extension of grace to your fellow man. If you and I are to advance the Kingdom of God, there cannot be this constant squawking about who has done it right or who has done it best. We are all on a journey. Most of us are trying to do the best we can. All of us, at some point, WILL get it wrong. Give people a chance to err. Also give them a chance to recover. Sometimes, the best thing we can do as Christians is to extend grace.

N.B. I feel compelled to say this. For those people who have allowed the misdoings of Christians to be their excuse for not establishing a relationship with God, I caution you. Christians are imperfect people made alive by the extension of grace. Most Christians follow the Doctrine of Jesus Christ. Many of us attempt to get it right. None of us do. Only one person has every gotten it right all the time, and His name is Jesus. The reason that none of us will ever get it right all the time is because God wanted to make sure that none of us could ever boast that we are perfect. We are all flawed.

Please know that your relationship with Christ cannot hang on the hinges of imperfect people. The cost is too high. I encourage you to learn about God for yourself. If you are going to accept or reject him do so on your own accord, not someone else’s. In the body of Christ, fellowship is important, but it cannot usurp your personal relationship with Christ. Think about your personal relationships. I am sure there is at least one person (e.g. mother, father, sibling, spouse, grandparents, aunt or uncle) in your family that most people just do not get along with. However, you still love them. Why? Their relationship with you is independent of how others feel about them or interact with them. Shouldn’t you afford the same opportunity to God?

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 I can do for you what Martin did for the people
Ran by the men but the women keep the tempo
It’s very seldom that you’re blessed to find your equal
Still play my part and let you take the lead role
Believe me
I’ll follow this could be easy
I’ll be the help whenever you need me
I see you hustle wit my hustle I
Can keep you
Focused on your focus I can feed you”

Upgrade U, Beyonce Knowles

Yesterday, Beyonce’s titled song, Upgrade U, played on the radio.  It had been a long time since I had heard it.  As, I jammed in my car to the midday mix, I was struck by the lyrics above.  So many scriptures came to mind.  Yes, God is present even in R & B.

Ran by the men, but the women keep the tempo.”

1 Peter 3:7 says, “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered,” (NLT).

Proverbs 31:11-12 (NLT) says that a wife of noble character could be trusted by her husband, “and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”

God has given dominion over the Earth to men.  In the Bible, God has called wives to submit to their husbands.  Submission as defined by the Bible is a reverent term.  It implies respect and love.  Although there are those who have misinterpreted and have perverted God’s command in order to use it as an excuse to treat women indignantly, that was never God’s intention.  Listen, in EVERY situation in life, there are leaders and followers.  In the case of relationships, God has granted the role of leadership to the man.  However, God gave him a need and a desire for a partner.  God also knew the inclination of some men to abuse His word, so He issued consequences for men who abused their authority over their women.  God created a direct correlation between a man’s success and how he treats his wife.  According to 1 Peter 3:7 husbands who mistreat their wives would have their prayers hindered.  Man may run the show, but the woman keeps the tempo, Beyonce.

 Still play my part and let you take the lead role

The old saying, “behind every successful man is a great woman,” is reflective of Proverbs 31:11-12: “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.  She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”  This is so true.  Women, we are very powerful, however, as wives, we are called to submit to our husbands.  Ephesians 5:22-24 says, “For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.”

Submission is not an expletive.  I believe that the reason why most people have an issue with submission is because they have an ill-defined perception of the command.  Being submissive does not mean that you are living in your husband’s shadow.  It doesn’t mean that you won’t have your chance to shine.  It also does not mean that you have to accept and go along with everything that your husband says.  Sorry men!

Remember, we are ALL under submission to Christ, so your husband’s leadership and requests must be in agreement with God’s words.  Also, as human there will be time that we will simply have to agree to disagree.  Disagreement does not always infer disrespect.  It just means that we disagree.  Actually, some of the best resolutions are birthed out of disagreements.

It’s very seldom that you’re blessed to find your equal
The Bible says that we should not be unequally yoked with non-believers (2 Corinthians 6:14).  However, I believe the command to be equally yoked extends beyond our theology.  It is possible to be unequally yoked even in the body of Christ.  For example, one person in the relationship may have a heart for missionary work and believe that God has called him to move across the globe, while the other person’s idea of charity is dropping some spare change in the Salvation Army bucket during the Christmas season.  This is not to say that couple cannot express different interests.  However, the core of who you are should be compatible.  As a couple, you should be on the same page.  You should complement each other.  You should be both chasing after the same goals.

So what happens if you are already married and are unequally yoked with your partner?  If you are married and your spouse is not a believer, the Bible urges you to stick it out:

“Now, I will speak to the rest of you, though I do not have a direct command from the Lord. If a Christian man has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her.  And if a Christian woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him.   For the Christian wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the Christian husband brings holiness to his marriage. Otherwise, your children would not be holy, but now they are holy” 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 (NLT).

In the Bible, God, through Paul, addressed the issue of being unequally yoked with a non-believer.  However, there were no concessions made for incompatibility.

I guess the moral of the story is that we all have our roles to play in relationships, and each one is equally important.  We all need each other.

“Let me Upgrade ya!”  I bet you’ll never listen to Beyonce the same way again.