As we move into Day 11, one of the greatest piece of advice I have is, “Just say no!”

Not every good thing is worth doing. While an activity or a deed might be inherently good, it doesn’t mean that we have to do it. We have to prioritize our time and make sure that we are spending it appropriately. One of the reasons that I believe that many of us are not further along on our path is because we keep getting distracted by peripheral events. Sometimes, we just have to say “no.”

We cannot spend our lives being people pleaser. There is only one of us, and there is only a finite amount of activities that we can do in a given day. At some point, saying yes to one thing means saying no to another. It is important that we take stock and evaluate to whom and to what we say yes and no to. Before I move on, I have to say this. In love and friendship, there will be times where we have to deny ourselves to help others. If we have never sacrificed ourselves (e.g. our time, our support, our money, etc.) for some else’s benefit, then we are selfish and probably not a good friend. Sorry. It’s true! With that being said, we have to weigh the amount of times we say no to ourselves against the amount of time we say yes to others. If we are constantly saying no to ourselves by constantly appeasing others, that is a gross imbalance. At that point, we have to re-shift our priorities. People who love us will understand when we occasionally say no. If they don’t, that is their problem and not ours.

In order to be where God needs us to be and not stretch ourselves too thin, we have to determine what is important. Even in the church, I see people stretching themselves thin because someone guilted them into a ministry that God never assigned them to. While serving in Sunday School and singing on the choir are all good things, it might not be the right thing for everyone. We don’t have to pursue every good thing. That’s why there are billions of people on the Earth. Each person is called to do something specific. For our happiness, wellness, and sanity, we have to learn to say no.

Today’s Prayer: Father, give us discernment regarding the things that we spend our time on. Give us the courage to say no to the things that waste our time or the things that are sent to distract us from our assignments. Also, give us the courage and the strength to pursue the things that you have laid on our hearts. In Jesus’ name we pray. Amen!