We all have baggage, but if we are not careful, our baggage could weigh us down and prevent us from living our best lives ever.  Sometimes our baggage could be the company that we keep.

Show me your friends and I’ll show you who you are.”

The Bible says, “Bad company ruins good character,” (1 Corinthians 15:33).  When it comes to our relationships, we have to be wary of the company we keep and the advice we receive.  Not all advice is well-intentioned, and even well-intentioned advice usually comes from an individual’s frame of reference.

A couple of weeks ago, I was given some disturbing advice on marriage from two COMPLETELY different individuals.  Not only was the advice similar, it was within a week apart.  The similarities were so eerie that I started to wonder whether God was trying to speak to me through these two people.  Their advice made me perceive marriage in a way that I had never thought of before.  On the surface, their message made a lot of sense, except it just didn’t align with God’s word.

For several days after the initial conversation with the two, I could not shake the impression their words made on my heart.  However, after much deliberation I started to think about the spirit behind the words.  Even though these two individuals were polar opposites, they had one thing in common: Divorce.  One had gone through a divorce and the other was in the middle of one.  Their advice came from a place of hurt, pain and anger.  There was no ill intentions towards me.  It was just that their views were tainted by their own personal experience. Now, does that mean that just because they had a negative experience they cannot give sound advice?  Absolutely not.  It simply means that I should be cognizant of the source when taking advice.  What is (are) their motive(s)?  What is (are) their experience(s)?

The first step when receiving advice from anyone is to make sure that it aligns with the Word.  Second, we have to make sure that the person who is giving us advice has our best interest in mind.  Lastly we have to make sure that they are not speaking solely from a negative experience.

Lord our prayer for today is:

Please allow us to carefully consider our source when receiving counsel.  Grant us the discernment to act in a manner that will preserve the integrity of our relationships and act according to the will of God.  In Jesus’ name.  Amen!

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